Monthly archives: November 2011
Through the Looking Glass and Not Looking Back
Source: Cori Sievers (Jamie’s Mom) Since just before the 20th of June, 2011, the first year anniversary of my only son Jamie’s death, I’ve been in a new corridor in the seemingly endless labyrinth of grieving, and I just couldn’t make it out for awhile. I didn’t fall, I leapt into a path [...]
Please See Me Through My Tears
Please See Me Through My Tears You asked, “How are you doing?” As I told you, tears came to my eyes . . . And you looked away and quickly began to talk again. All the attention you had given me drained away. “How am I doing?” . . . I do better when people [...]
The Journey That we Call Grief
The grief we talk about here is real, gut wrenching pain, accompanied by all sorts of other emotions such as guilt, shame, regrets – all the “what ifs”, “should haves” that do nothing but drag us down farther. It is what it is and we go on from here. To lose a person you love deeply, someone who has been an important part of your life…maybe the MOST important part of your life – is devastating. Really, there is no word for it that equals the intensity of the feeling.
Everyone responds differently to their loss, and this fact makes it harder to understand each other when we find ourselves comparing her loss, to my loss, to his loss. We must try not to do that. Even if all experiences, all relationships were the same, each person’s response would still be different, and add to that, different from day to day, moment to moment!